A good friend and I were chatting this evening about men and how many of them would rather ignore than be honest. Recently, someone I went to highschool with suggested that we go out for a drink sometimes, after he was unable to attend an event I had invited him too. Now, if he didn't want to hang out, he could have just said he was busy, but he mentioned going out for a drink instead. I waited a while to mention it again, I didn't want him to get the wrong idea. This was a guy that I had liked in highschool, but a lot has changed in the past 10 years and I wouldn't think of him in that capacity now. To me, this was literally going to be what it was, two people meeting for a drink to catch up. It wasn't until he began ignoring me (I didn't ask him why he wasn't responding, I figured it out on my own) that I realized two things. 1. He probably thought I was interested in him on more than a friend level and 2. He probably didn't want to hang out in the first place but was just trying to be polite. Apparently, his politeness backfired on him, because it isn't making him seem very "polite" now.
Since when did honesty become a bad thing? I would much rather someone tell me "Sorry, I'm busy" and leave it at that, then have someone try to make me feel better only to make me feel worse later. What started out as a simple thing was turned into quite an annoyance, because as girls we obssess. Did I say something to give him the wrong idea? Did he change his mind? One way to get a girls attention is to ignore her.
Do you know what the act of ignoring is... ignorance.
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