Dream Cast

Like everyone, on occassion someone from my past will appear in my dream, some more than others.  Maybe an old friend, a current friend, someone I used to crush on, etc...  Standard, right?  But what do you do when you wake up from your dream feeling like a stalker?  There is an acquaintance of mine, someone I liked at one time in my life, but it was a very long time ago.  I do not look at him now as a romantic interest, we have very little in common.  And yet, for the past 10 years or so this person had made appearances in my dreams on a monthly basis, often a few times per month.  It has gone on for so long that I started to just pass it off as the norm.  He rarely plays a big role in the dream,  he is just someone who happens to be present.  I figured he represented a part of my past and left it at that, in order to not feel like a psychopath.  And then I had a dream that included members of his family. People I have seen before, but never really met.  And then I REALLY felt like a pyscho. 

I keep wondering why of all the men I have liked in the past, this is the one who breaks into my dreams so frequently.  We have had very little interaction with one another, especially in the past few months.   The creepiest part of him appearing in my dreams: I kind of like him there.  

Does this make me a creeper? 

Logic

So, I had been seeing a guy for a while and got distracted, but that ended about a month or so ago.  Before I became exclusive with him I had been talking to another gent.  About 3 weeks ago we reconnected and have been spending hours a day on the phone (one day for 4 hours!).  We had a date scheduled  for this past Saturday, but he cancelled for family reasons.  We continued to talk all weekend though.  He told me about his past, which included many run ins with the law as a child, up until the age of 14.  Yesterday I thought to ask him if he had ever been arrested.  Later he told me that I had only asked him that because he was black.  I was dumbfounded!  I will not repeat the kind of trouble he got in as a child here, but given all he had told me this reaction was utterly rediculous!  I asked him "Is it more logical that I asked you that because of everything you told me about your past, or because you are black?"  He went off on "woah is me" rampage about being black and I don't know what it's like.  Don't get me wrong, I know there are racist people everywhere.  And I may not know what it feels like to be judged by color, but I know what it feels like to be judged!!!  I tried to explain all of this to him, but he wouldn't hear it.  I told him he was basically calling me racist, but he said he wasn't.  I explained I had dated other black men and none of them seemed to have such a problem with the world, in regards to their race. It probably has a lot to do with his upbringing, why he sees the world the way he does.  The part that pissed me off was that after he said that to me he ignored me the rest of the night.  We had a phone date, I tried to call, he wouldn't answer.  After thinking about it more I realized even more how rediculous his reaction was.  Asking him if he had ever been arrested after him telling me at least 3 stories about his run ins with the law seemed pretty logical to me. And here I was trying to give the guy a chance, despite his past.  Where was the logic in that?